Valentine’s Day, arguably the worst holiday of the year for singles, takens, “and it’s complicated”s, comes around with greater and more insane methods of finding significant others. Maybe technology is the one to blame, but if 59% (Pew Research Center 2015) of Americans agree that online dating is a good way to “meet” others, maybe we should start examining the quest for love as one out of desperation.

Methods of courting have evolved per generation, and it seems within the last ten years that courting may not always consist of your basic run in at the grocery store, love doctor, or completely distant cousin. Online dating has proven itself a very common routine with sites including eHarmony, Tinder, Match, OkCupid, and more exclusive sites like ChristianMingle for those with already a type of lover preferred. But this goes on to show: just how desperate are we as society for attention, let alone love?

Sure, online dating has its benefits for those who may be long-distance, or those who may have a bit of anxiety for putting themselves out in the real world, but the interweb poses various problems especially for dating. Just ask Nev Schulman, producer of the MTV show Catfish. Victims of catfishing, or creating online profiles which pose as fake or wannabe persons, expose the predominance of a bigger issue apart from safety and security: insecurity.

We all crave human interaction regardless of whether it’s romantic or not, but utilizing solely a keyboard, monitor, and some wicked wifi to convey one’s infatuation for another is too demanding. Surely one can argue the greater need to have a partner with the ability to carry an ongoing conversation, but you can’t touch, cuddle, kiss, or hug whoever that Joe, 22, Chicago says he appears to be.